Most parents of children with autism receive the diagnosis with a mix of shock and disbelief. Thoughts of denial, such as “it can be true,” “this doctor doesn’t know anything,” and even “it is probably ADHD, or something else, but not autism,” pop up.
Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) have long been stigmatized by society, which doesn’t ease acceptance. As overwhelmed as you are, there is just one thing to do now, which is…
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Breath.
You’ve got this. You will educate yourself. Your life will be different than you imagined. But there will be joy and laughter and hope and victories to celebrate.
And then... Act.
Look for support. Learn the ropes. Become an advocate for your child and your family.
Again, you’ve got this.
Of course, there will be many stages between “breath” and “act.” You will probably feel grief and anger. You will bargain - let it be something else! And you will experience denial.
Why Do We Experience Denial?
Denial plays an important psychological role. It is a mechanism that buffers intense emotions, such as fear, sadness, and anger. It allows us time to process information and feelings and grow stronger until we can deal with them.
These are common thoughts of denial of an autism diagnosis:
- We are scared
- There will be no future
- He’ll grow out of it
- What did I do wrong?
- We can’t afford this
- I can’t handle this
- This is just a phase
- This isn’t what I planned
- There isn’t anyone with autism in my family
- I don’t have time
- Other people will judge or stare at my child
The Upside of Acceptance
Once a parent comes to terms with the diagnosis, the entire family benefits:
You’ll become your child’s advocate
The sooner you come to terms with the diagnosis, the sooner you can find programs to support the child’s development like ABA therapy or other autism therapy options.
You won’t wait
You’ll realize you can start your child on a program, assessment, or therapy even if your partner hasn’t come to terms with the diagnosis.
An accurate diagnosis opens doors
Your insurance may cover ABA, occupational, and speech therapy programs. A proper diagnosis is required.
You can be present for your other children
You will now be able to transmit confidence to the rest of the family, explain autism, and reassure siblings that you are still there for them.
You’ll choose your battles
It’s not worth it to expend energy on judgmental people of your parenting or your child. They are the uneducated ones, not you.
You’ll learn that you are not alone
Autism and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) can feel isolating. But if you look, you will find a community of people who have lived through the same struggles and are willing to help.
You will develop a new sensitivity
Many parents of neurodiverse children report a positive shift in their understanding of the world, in which diversity is not only embraced but cherished.
If you are ready to get started with ABA therapy from a trusted and experienced autism therapy center, ACES is here to help. For over 25 years, we have been dedicated to improving the lives of those impacted by developmental disabilities like autism. We are proud to offer quality ABA therapy and autism therapy services and are here to help and support your family. Contact us today to learn more!